When one hears the topic of “relationship,” one usually thinks of interpersonal dynamics. A more compelling aspect of relationship for me is the one we have with the world around us–in other words, with Life itself.
What determines our relationship to our life? Is it fate, karma, dharma or something else over which we may have more influence? It seems pretty clear that certain people come into this world with some heavy homework to do. While others seem to skim the cream that Life has to offer. Whether you fall into one of these two categories or somewhere in between, I believe that our attitude and beliefs can have an inordinate impact on the way we experience our lives.
In a thought provoking documentary a few years ago called, “What the Bleep Do We Know!?,” a postulate was made that at the sub-atomic level there was no difference between matter and thought. It went on to explain that our thoughts and beliefs affect not only our body, organs, health, and the way we age, but also how the world responds to us. This is the dynamic inherent in the phrase “Life always says, YES!”
What we most hold true will be true for us. If we believe at a core level that we are a loser, Life will show us again and again that, “yes,” we are. We will continue to experience failure so that we can reinforce our belief. If we believe we are special, and that we possess gifts that can make a difference in the world, in our job, in our relationship, then Life will show us that that is true for us.
When I speak to companies about how individuals can have a greater impact in their world, I first ask them to examine their core beliefs. Many folks raised in traditional religions embrace the notion that we are conceived in sin and are inherently unworthy. This belief can have potent repercussions in ones personal and professional life. I’ve seen many bright, capable people work hard, have success and somehow still manage to end up with very little for themselves. Life says … “You feel you’re not worthy, I guess you’re right.”
When I returned from West Africa last year, I told my wife that I would not complain about anything ever again. I was struck by the drastic difference between how we live and the challenging conditions in which most Africans live. I can’t claim 100% success, but since my trip I’ve been so much more patient with what appear as aggravations in my life. I tell myself that these things are minor inconveniences, and things usually resolve smoothly and easily. Life cooperates with a “yes,” because that’s what I’m choosing to put out there.
If you’re one of those people who seemingly do everything correctly, but still have a lot of dissatisfaction in your life, take time to reflect on the basic core beliefs you’re holding. It could be time to reprogram some of those beliefs so that you come into greater balance in your relationship to Life.
May you know your inherent divinity, and express it through joy each day.
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-The above is featured in Spheres Circles Publication-Vol. 7 No. 3 Copyright 2007
-Mathew Mitchell is a dynamic, transformational speaker. Matthew speaks to companies and organizations about being more effective in what they do by working in harmony with “higher principles.” He also has a consulting practice, teaching negoiation skills to the fortune 100. To contact for speaking engagements and more information Visit his website: http://www.matthewmitchell.com